So I Dinged the Tesla’s Butt.
But Guess what happened next?
A John & Mary Saga Update - 11.02.2026
It’s all kind of ironic that this involves a Tesla at all.
I do drive one (I Know, I Know…).
I mean, it was Mary that wanted a new car. I wasn’t really bothered either way, but a Tesla - given what I know, - about who Musk really is, and what’s really going down.
Yes, this Tesla is Gold, and yes, of course the plate has a ‘33’ in it; and no, - the damage wasn’t quite as bad as ‘Bird Damage’ - Have you ever seen what Birds can do to planes??? Amazing stuff. Imagine what steel would do…
BTW, My one is just ‘plane’ ole white, with a little pearly sparkle.
Have a little listen here (Hope it helps someone):
In this episode, we deconstruct a real-life interaction—the "Tesla Gate Post Incident"—to reveal the hidden mechanics of Covert Narcissism. What appears on the surface to be a minor car accident involving a gate post is actually a textbook case of Narcissistic Injury and Coercive Control.
We break down the transcript to show how a trivial event triggers a disproportionate rage response, not because of the damage to the car, but because of the narcissist's perceived loss of control. The discussion highlights the use of DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender), where the aggressor flips the script to play the victim, claiming they are being "attacked" by the partner's calm request for reflection.
Key takeaways include:
• The "Double Standard": How the narcissist expects grace for their own mistakes but offers none to their partner.
• Projective Identification: How internal shame is violently exported into the partner to regulate the narcissist's nervous system.
• The "Nuclear" Exit: Analyzing the histrionic attempt to exit a moving vehicle as a somatic "extinction burst" designed to regain dominance.
• The "Empty Hole": Understanding why logic and "adult conversation" fail when dealing with a partner who lacks a cohesive self.
This overview provides a forensic look at the "Axe and the Tree" dynamic, illustrating why the partner (the Tree) retains the scars of the event long after the narcissist (the Axe) has forgotten the swing.
This may all seem to be a rather perverse sort of way of dealing with what is really serious, and quite traumatic stuff - especially for a HSP, Empath, INFJ person like me. But at the moment, this is how I need to process it.
Believe me, being in the midst of this Hagalaz storm ain’t my idea of fun, - but at least I know where this particular storm is forecast to die out now…
It’s also incredibly helpful for me, right now, to commit all of this to (digital) paper as a means of preserving my own sanity. It helps me preserve “reality”, and to not loose sight of that in a hailstorm of distortion and mistruths that rain down from an Unconscious mind.
I will write and post more about the dangerous cliff edges that I have been pushed to in the past, soon.
If you’re here, then you are likely here for a reason. If you’ve listened to the “Tesla Ding-Dong Incident”, then you probably want to know some more, huh?
I know that I want to know more - I want to know how this whole Covert Narc thing REALLY works - I want to know is it intentional malice, does it stem from total unconsciousness, or maybe somewhere in betwixt and between?
I think Jordan Peterson should step in here - He might know more than me? (although I am fast becoming somewhat of an expert!)
Did it help??
What about this podcast by Mark Groves? It’s called “Ditch The Narcissist & Stop Entertaining B.S.” Maybe harsh? Very True. Again, I hope it helps you like it is helping me.
And amongst all of this, I find myself wondering will my key-strokes wake her up (at 5:07 am) and will another confrontation arise?
- As well as whether my chosen font size is too big?? (Really).
Here is another precious resource for you. A Bible of a book. It’s called “The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist” by Debbie Mirza.
You can buy it and support her work.
Or you can access a PDF of it on The Internet Archive - link below. This is what I need to do - I just cannot at the moment have the physical book present in my house. You can imagine why.
(And it saves pencil lead - when you’re going to be highlighting nearly every paragraph (really), it’s handier to do it in a PDF !!!).
• Covert Narcissism
• Narcissistic Rage
• DARVO
• Coercive Control
• Narcissistic Injury